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New Research on DD

PLEASE NOTE: A reader pointed out to me that the link to the study is now dead. indeed it is. It seems to have been scrubbed from the site. I do not know if this calls into question the research, or if the research was too politically incorrect. So take this for what it's worth. 

If you secretly practice Domestic Dicsipline or   in your relationships, you’re not alone. Ashforth et. al. a group of students at MSU surveyed almost 1000 heterosexual couples, who described their relationship as committed, about relational and sexual behavior. This may be the first time that  was included in such a survey. Normally people will not admit to  in their relationships because they think it is socially unacceptable. But by assuring complete anonymity, and couching it in a rather long survey, they got surprising answers.

Of those surveyed almost half (48%) stated that  played some role in their relationship.  is clearly a male dominated practice. 75% of those who  (36% of total) said the man  his woman only, 19% (9% of total) of women  their men only and only 6% (3% of total)  each other. Nearly all who , 87% of women and 77% of men, think that  is extremely rare and 98% of both genders fear that if they were discovered either they or their partner would be ostracized from society. The study asked other specific questions about their  habits.

From the above data you might assume that women are getting the worst end of this and we need to call the domestic violence police on a LOT of men. This is certainly not an equal proposition.

However, the survey said that in most cases it was the women who suggested they use .

 74% of couples where only the woman is  said it was the woman’s idea. 20% said it was the man and 6% didn’t know or didn’t answer.

89% of couples where only the man is  say that it was the woman’s idea. 9% of husbands suggested it and 2% didn’t respond.

In couples who  each other this statistic is more equal with 56% of men suggesting it and 40% of women.

It seems like women are far more comfortable with one sided submission, whether it’s offering to submit themselves, or asking their men to submit. When men suggest , they’re more likely to offer to take what they dish.

The study also asked what the reasons for  were. 

 is not only reserved for discipline. Women who are only  are  for both dicsipline and romance (52%), 31% are only  for disciipline and 17% are only  for romance.

When women  men only it is most likely to be only for romance (38%), with 30%  for dicsipline and 32%  for both.

When both  each other, it tends to be romance (44%), discipliine only rates at 23%, and both is 33%.

Clearly a whole lot more feminine bottoms get toasted for all reasons, especially discipliine than masculine ones. However, that may not be a bad thing.

As seen above, more women initiated  than men and when asked if they believed that  improved their relationship a whopping (pun intended) 98% of diisciplined wives said yes, 70% asserting that  had saved their relationship. Men are bullish on dicsiplining their women too, 88% think it is good for the relationship and 66% believe it saved their relationship.

Wives disciplining men seemed less favorable. Only 56% of women believe that  their men has improved their relationship with 28% asserting that it saved their relationship. 43% of dissciplined men thought it benefited their relationship and only 19 thought it had saved their relationship.

A high 87% of both men and women who  each other for discippline believe it is good for their relationship and 69% said it saved their relationship.

98% of only  women say that s are fully consensual even though, of those who were disciplinned, only 78% said they had granted unlimited pre-consent, meaning that their man had permission to  them whenever and as much as they wanted, even if the woman said she did not want to be  at the time; This is an important factor in successful domestic . When women are  for romance, 52% say they have granted unlimited pre-consent, which means that the man can initiate romantic s at any time, whether or not she is in the mood.

The men who  women but are not  have similar views about pre-consent. 99% think it is fully consensual, and 77% say their lady has granted them full pre-consent to disciipline them and 50% who  romantically say they have pre-consent to  their women romantically. 

100% of both men and women who  each other believe it is fully consensual while only 55% have granted each other pre-consent.

However, the consent in relationships where only the man is  by the woman breaks from this pattern. Only 40% of men feel it’s consensual (with only 36% granting pre-consent) while 70% of their female s think it’s consensual (with 67% claiming to have received pre-consent).  This may indicate that many men go along with it although they don’t consent, just to appease their women. Also, the number of women who admit that they  their men non-consensually is alarming.
 

Of the women who are  for disciplinee 78% said they do not like getting actual s and try to avoid them. 60% admit to teasing their men into them, with 81% of those saying they regret it when they actually do get . 65% have broken a rule and confessed it to their  asking him to  them.  And 68% say they always regret earning a  and wish they had not pre-consented when they’re about to get it. 49% say they resist s and their men must force them to accept it. However, 98% say that they like being in a domestic  relationship. With 90% saying they appreciate being  immediately afterward. 100% of dicsiplined women said that being held and cared for after a  was important although, sadly only 82% said it happened every time. We can deduce from this that most disciiplinned women don’t necessarily like being , but they do like living a  life and having their man in charge. Women who are  romantically tend to like being  more. Only 15% said they dislike s and just tolerate it to please their man. 11% say they are neutral about it. 46% say they don’t like s at first but it eventually turns them on. 14% say they love s.

Men are fond of  their ladies too. Although only 39% of all men actually  their women, nearly all (83%) admit to wanting to.

Of course, this study covered a very broad spectrum of relationship life, surveying many topics this article does not. Over all, though, it found that  relationships within marriage, where the woman only or both partners are , were the most fulfilled. It also found that relationships where the husband serves as the head of the household and the wife submmits, and where the husband discipliines the wife, were significantly happier. And wives who had loving husbands who  them for disciipline were twice as likely to score “happy” (above 75%) on all the happiness indicators in the survey. All in all, the greatest indicator of a happy, fulfilling, relationship for both genders was for the husband to be the undisputed head of the household and  his wife. The same did not hold true for men who are . They scored slightly below average on the happiness scale, and their relationships tended to show friction.

So, wives, if you feel like your relationship is not living up to your expectations, perhaps you should buy your man a  paddle, and grant him unconditional pre-consent.

Source: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Ashforth_etal/publication/286455332-dynamics-in-relationships-a-comprehensive-study/links/566b39f908ae1a797e39db59/dynamics-in-relationships-a-comprehensive-study.pdf