New Research on DD

PLEASE NOTE: A reader pointed out to me that the link to the study is now dead. indeed it is. It seems to have been scrubbed from the site. I do not know if this calls into question the research, or if the research was too politically incorrect. So take this for what it's worth. 

If you secretly practice Domestic Dicsipline or   in your relationships, you’re not alone. Ashforth et. al. a group of students at MSU surveyed almost 1000 heterosexual couples, who described their relationship as committed, about relational and sexual behavior. This may be the first time that  was included in such a survey. Normally people will not admit to  in their relationships because they think it is socially unacceptable. But by assuring complete anonymity, and couching it in a rather long survey, they got surprising answers.

Of those surveyed almost half (48%) stated that  played some role in their relationship.  is clearly a male dominated practice. 75% of those who  (36% of total) said the man  his woman only, 19% (9% of total) of women  their men only and only 6% (3% of total)  each other. Nearly all who , 87% of women and 77% of men, think that  is extremely rare and 98% of both genders fear that if they were discovered either they or their partner would be ostracized from society. The study asked other specific questions about their  habits.

From the above data you might assume that women are getting the worst end of this and we need to call the domestic violence police on a LOT of men. This is certainly not an equal proposition.

However, the survey said that in most cases it was the women who suggested they use .

 74% of couples where only the woman is  said it was the woman’s idea. 20% said it was the man and 6% didn’t know or didn’t answer.

89% of couples where only the man is  say that it was the woman’s idea. 9% of husbands suggested it and 2% didn’t respond.

In couples who  each other this statistic is more equal with 56% of men suggesting it and 40% of women.

It seems like women are far more comfortable with one sided submission, whether it’s offering to submit themselves, or asking their men to submit. When men suggest , they’re more likely to offer to take what they dish.

The study also asked what the reasons for  were. 

 is not only reserved for discipline. Women who are only  are  for both dicsipline and romance (52%), 31% are only  for disciipline and 17% are only  for romance.

When women  men only it is most likely to be only for romance (38%), with 30%  for dicsipline and 32%  for both.

When both  each other, it tends to be romance (44%), discipliine only rates at 23%, and both is 33%.

Clearly a whole lot more feminine bottoms get toasted for all reasons, especially discipliine than masculine ones. However, that may not be a bad thing.

As seen above, more women initiated  than men and when asked if they believed that  improved their relationship a whopping (pun intended) 98% of diisciplined wives said yes, 70% asserting that  had saved their relationship. Men are bullish on dicsiplining their women too, 88% think it is good for the relationship and 66% believe it saved their relationship.

Wives disciplining men seemed less favorable. Only 56% of women believe that  their men has improved their relationship with 28% asserting that it saved their relationship. 43% of dissciplined men thought it benefited their relationship and only 19 thought it had saved their relationship.

A high 87% of both men and women who  each other for discippline believe it is good for their relationship and 69% said it saved their relationship.

98% of only  women say that s are fully consensual even though, of those who were disciplinned, only 78% said they had granted unlimited pre-consent, meaning that their man had permission to  them whenever and as much as they wanted, even if the woman said she did not want to be  at the time; This is an important factor in successful domestic . When women are  for romance, 52% say they have granted unlimited pre-consent, which means that the man can initiate romantic s at any time, whether or not she is in the mood.

The men who  women but are not  have similar views about pre-consent. 99% think it is fully consensual, and 77% say their lady has granted them full pre-consent to disciipline them and 50% who  romantically say they have pre-consent to  their women romantically. 

100% of both men and women who  each other believe it is fully consensual while only 55% have granted each other pre-consent.

However, the consent in relationships where only the man is  by the woman breaks from this pattern. Only 40% of men feel it’s consensual (with only 36% granting pre-consent) while 70% of their female s think it’s consensual (with 67% claiming to have received pre-consent).  This may indicate that many men go along with it although they don’t consent, just to appease their women. Also, the number of women who admit that they  their men non-consensually is alarming.
 

Of the women who are  for disciplinee 78% said they do not like getting actual s and try to avoid them. 60% admit to teasing their men into them, with 81% of those saying they regret it when they actually do get . 65% have broken a rule and confessed it to their  asking him to  them.  And 68% say they always regret earning a  and wish they had not pre-consented when they’re about to get it. 49% say they resist s and their men must force them to accept it. However, 98% say that they like being in a domestic  relationship. With 90% saying they appreciate being  immediately afterward. 100% of dicsiplined women said that being held and cared for after a  was important although, sadly only 82% said it happened every time. We can deduce from this that most disciiplinned women don’t necessarily like being , but they do like living a  life and having their man in charge. Women who are  romantically tend to like being  more. Only 15% said they dislike s and just tolerate it to please their man. 11% say they are neutral about it. 46% say they don’t like s at first but it eventually turns them on. 14% say they love s.

Men are fond of  their ladies too. Although only 39% of all men actually  their women, nearly all (83%) admit to wanting to.

Of course, this study covered a very broad spectrum of relationship life, surveying many topics this article does not. Over all, though, it found that  relationships within marriage, where the woman only or both partners are , were the most fulfilled. It also found that relationships where the husband serves as the head of the household and the wife submmits, and where the husband discipliines the wife, were significantly happier. And wives who had loving husbands who  them for disciipline were twice as likely to score “happy” (above 75%) on all the happiness indicators in the survey. All in all, the greatest indicator of a happy, fulfilling, relationship for both genders was for the husband to be the undisputed head of the household and  his wife. The same did not hold true for men who are . They scored slightly below average on the happiness scale, and their relationships tended to show friction.

So, wives, if you feel like your relationship is not living up to your expectations, perhaps you should buy your man a  paddle, and grant him unconditional pre-consent.

Source: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Ashforth_etal/publication/286455332-dynamics-in-relationships-a-comprehensive-study/links/566b39f908ae1a797e39db59/dynamics-in-relationships-a-comprehensive-study.pdf

Twas the Night before Christmas--DD edition.

'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the town

Her pleas could be heard as her  came down.

"Oh Santa, dear , don't spank me, I pray!
I'll be ever so good, starting right from today!"

But Santa just chuckled, "I've heard that before
From many a bad girl with  so sore

As she wriggles and squirms 'neath his hand's hearty sting.

But a promise like that - why, it means not a thing.

What matters, dear One, as you'll very soon see
Is that you should be  across Santa's broad knee

Till your sassy   is burning bright red!"
And with that, the old fellow did just as he'd said,

And proceeded to  her with all of his might
Till her yelps echoed loud in the cold frosty night,

And each s w a t, ringing out like a loud pistol shot,

Turned her soft, round bottom increasingly hot.

Then, when she'd been hand- with many a smack,
The jolly old fellow reached into his sack

He produced a fine padddle of well-seasoned wood.
"Now, this is the thing that makes  girls good."

He remarked with a grin. "And I think you'll soon find
How effective it feels on a soft, tender behind!"

"Oh please, Santa! No more!" she cried in dismay,
But the paddlle cracked down without further delay,

And despite all her protests and wailings and shrieks
It soon deepened the blush on her squirming, rear cheeks.

Poor dear how she wriggled but all was vain,
For the paddlle descended again and again

Till her bouncing   was sizzling and sore
And as red as the costume that Santa Claus wore.

But at last he relented allowing her to rise,
Hugged her warmly while wiping the tears from her eyes,

And murmuring, "There, it's all over, my dear!"
Rubbing soothing cool cream on her blazing, hot rear.

Then he exclaimed, "Well Miss, your sweet  so curved
Has had the sound  it so richly deserved.

From now on, I'm sure, I don't need to explain,
If you're good then I shan't have to  you again.

But if you are  - remember, my dear,
That Santa keeps watch for the whole of the year!"

Then smiling, he shouldered his bulging big sack,
And sent her away with a crisp farewell smack.

So she hurried to bed with satisfaction you know,
With a song in her heart and her  aglow

As she slipped into bed, her hubby came in

slipped out of his costume and lay down with a grin. 

As he rubbed her sore bottom, the work of his hand, 

She snuggled in next to her big strong husband.

And she sensed that all manner of things were all right.
But she slept facing down on her tummy that night.

Author unknown.

Godly Submission

DD By Surprise--A testimony

Here's a letter one reader shared with me about how she got involved in DD.
Please keep your stories coming! my email is lisasjoydd@gmail.com

____________________Hubby's Jewel's Story__________________________________
My DD lifestyle happened quite surprisingly. My marriage was in shambles, due largely to my behavior and lack of my husband's leadership.  We hardly spoke, and were sleeping in different rooms. It seemed like only a matter of time before one of us would file for divorce. One day I my husband came home and saw me  our daughter. She had been been neglectful of her chores and then belligerent about it. After I was done and our daughter was crying in the corner, He asked me what she had done to deserve such a sound . I told her matter of factly. "Your daughter has been very neglectful of her chores. Today when I confronted her about it she got belligerent about it. I could see that she needed to be reminded of her place in this family. Any girl in this home who doesn't do her chores deserves a . But any girl in this house who is belligerent and disrespectful of authority deserves a very sound , and that's just what JJ got!"

Then next day, when BJ (Hubby's Jewel's husband) got home from work, He commented that he had to wear a dirty shirt to work because none were clean. pointing to a huge pile of laundry he asked how long it'd been since I'd done any laundry. It'd been quite a while, but I didn't admit that. Instead I flew into a rage and belligerently told me that I wasn't his slave and he could do his own laundry. After I ranted and raved for a bit. BJ Grasped me by the arm and began pulling me toward the couch. He sat down and before I knew it, I was lying over his knee. I screamed, "What do you think you're doing, let me up!"
But BJ held me down, "Now till you shut up and listen to me!"

I struggled to get free for a while but soon realized that I was stuck. Deciding that the moment he let me up I was going to go find a lawyer to file for divorce, I stopped fighting and said, "Go ahead, I'm listening."

"HJ, Just yesterday you told me that any girl in this household who doesn't do her chores deserves a . Well, It looks to me like you've been neglecting ALL your chores for months, maybe that's why our daughter thinks she can skip hers!"
"But..."I uninterrupted
"I'm not done, Shut up and listen!" he said firmly, "Everything's a mess: laundry, dishes, vacuuming, just look at this despicable carpet, and when was the last time you actually fixed a decent supper for us to eat as a family? Look, I work long hours and make a good living. All you do is work a part time job selling candles, Keeping the house is YOUR job, These are YOUR chores!! Furthermore, today when I confronted you about not doing the chores you got all belligerent and began ranting and raving at me in the most disrespectful manner. and to quote you yesterday, 'any girl in this house who is belligerent and disrespectful of authority deserves a very sound !' Well if a little girl should know better than to skip out on her chores and be belligerent toward authority, her mommy certainly should. I don't see how its fair that JJ gets a sound  for these misdeeds, and you don't."
"BJ, you don't mean..." I said frantically, "I'm not a child, I'm a grown woman, I'm your wife, not your daughter!"
"Yes, I do mean, and I know you're a grown woman, and I think a grown woman should be held to a higher standard that her daughter. so YES, I AM going to  you, young lady!"

I started to protest, but his hand crashed down on my  before I could get very far. "Ouch!!" I screamed. He  several more times, then he pulled down my pants and  noting that if JJ had to receive her  . At first while he , I was angry and vowing divorce. But as he held me there and lit a fire in my , A strange feeling crept over me. Somehow, I liked the feeling of having a strong man, putting me in my place. It was a strange feeling of peace. I suddenly felt a  feeling I'd never felt before, and it felt good. As his hand warmed my backside, I slowly surrendered to my  and began crying and apologizing. By the time he stopped, I was a tearful, snotty mess, but as he held me in his arms, while I cried, I buried my face into his shoulder and cried out all the tension that had built up over the years. I think I must have cried for an hour, and my BJ just tenderly held me. When it was all over I apologized to him once more and promised to be more respectful and diligent in my housework. He pulled my clothes back up and told me it was all forgiven.
We hugged for a little more, until JJ came bursting in the door, all excited about something. "Mommy, Mommy can I go..." But when she saw me teary eyed on her daddy's lap, she stopped short and asked, "What's wrong, Mommy?"
"Nothing's wrong, dear, Nothing at all." I said with a smile.
"B-but you're crying!" she pressed.
"Oh, JJ, Sometimes mommy's cry when they're really happy, and your daddy just made me really happy." Then getting up I added, "Come on, JJ, lets fix a nice supper to eat together!"
As JJ and I fixed supper, I just couldn't believe how great I felt. I felt like a new woman. And all I wanted to do was please my man. At supper time JJ remembered what she was going to ask when she got home. She had been invited to go on a camping trip with a friend. We agreed to let her go and BJ drover her over to her friend's house. While he was gone, I realized that we had a whole weekend to ourselves, and for the first time, I was excited about it. I dug around in the bottom of my drawer and found the skimpy nightie, I had worn on out wedding night. It was all wrinkled but I put it on anyway. Then I started to do laundry, making sure to wash his shirts and pants first. That evening we had a long talk about our relationship. I admitted that my  had had a strange affect on me. We agreed that from now on, He would be the man and I would be respectful, gt my chores done and obey him or else he would  me. That night we had fun in the bed for the first time in years. The next day he had me stay  as I caught up on the housework. Even though I was doing work all day, I didn't mind. I felt so bubbly and joyful I sang the whole time. Even knowing BJ was watching my   brought me joy. I made sure to do as much work within his eye-shot as possible. I knew it pleased him and I felt good, making him so happy. It also made me feel s e x y, something I had not felt in a long time. We had a wonderful weekend. By the time BJ left to pick up JJ on Sunday evening, the house was spotless, dinner was ready and I was glowing. As I put my clothes on for the first time since JJ had left, I sensed that a brand new life was beginning. And it did!

JJ doesn't know why her mommy and daddy are suddenly madly in love, but she has thrived under the new order of out household. We eat dinner together every evening, and she often invited her friends to our house (previously, she always wanted to got to theirs). BTW, the problems with JJ not doing her chores and being belligerent are all but gone now. In fact, I get more s than she does! Perhaps when she gets older and starts dating, I'll let her in on the secret of our happiness, until then I'm enjoying every minute.

Love,
HJ (Hubby's Jewel)

The Biblical Ideals of Submission